I just spent the last few minutes tabbing through the list of recent search terms that brought readers to my blog.
I just want to take a moment to thank all the civilians who search things like “what to say to a friend whose husband is deploying” or “how to support my military wife coworker”. You have no idea how much it means to military spouses that you are taking a moment to research how to support us. I’ve received so many hits from those types of searches recently that it brought very happy tears to my eyes.
Today is my 1st wedding anniversary, and I haven’t yet heard from my husband … and I may not hear from him at all today. We are stationed overseas, so I doubt that I’ll receive flowers or anything special in the mail. I definitely won’t receive a card today. Hopefully I’ll receive a phone call? Or an email? I know that he is remembering our anniversary and thinking of me, but that doesn’t mean that he’ll have an opportunity to tell me that he loves me today.
None of those things really matter because all I truly want is for my husband to come home to me in a few months … but it’s deeply difficult to be alone during these milestones. I have exactly 4 friends here on base (I can’t begin to tell you how difficult the social scene is here). I don’t have any family on this side of the planet, and while most new brides wouldn’t want to spend their first wedding anniversary with their family, it would be significant improvement over spending it alone and fretting about my husband’s safety.
Here ends my rant: Hug and kiss your spouse or significant other today and tell them how much you love and appreciate them. I can’t wait to do that with my husband, whenever this darn deployment is over and the Navy finally gives him back to me for a few months.
If you’re interested in reading about my deployment support ramblings, here are a few links to my posts:
– How to support a military spouse through a deployment.
– On military wives supporting military wives.
– How to support a military spouse when their other half is deployed.
I write about how I deal with deployment in each and every post. If you’re interested in that perspective, page through my posts until you see a post title that you are interested in – I try to title my posts with very uncreative/honest titles that are related to what I’m writing about.
Last thought – I always wonder if the people at the top of the military ever Google or research what the average military family’s life is like. When I pose this question to friends, most of us salty military wives bitterly comment things like “oh they’ve forgotten about us little people” and “they don’t care. They’re not deploying anymore!” With all this talk of military pay and promotion freezes, I have to wonder how our leaders are making these choices? Congress and friends wouldn’t dream of actually serving their country, so I “get” that they don’t have a clue about anything related to us “little people”. But, do our military leaders remember these deployments and days of endless loneliness? Are they too far removed to care? Or, are they sincerely trying to make the best decisions possible? If you’re out there, Admiral or General sir or ma’am, please thank your spouse today and remember how hard it is to be here sometimes. It’s worth it, but it’s still very, very hard.