Recently, I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about my marriage: what makes it meaningful, how my husband and I will “make it work” through deployments to come, and, honestly, why it is that I’m so happy and content in this marriage. The one point that I always come back to is that our marriage is steady — we do not have high highs or low lows — we are always very content and on an even keel. Our love is steady and comes easily, and we have a high level of trust that the other will always be there, loving us as we are.
I think it’s the steadiness and easiness that allows our love to span the distance and time that separates us so often. If our relationship had high highs and low lows, the waves and changes would affect the connection and make it weaker. So, for us, this steady love works.
I am reblogging this post from a fellow military wife. Her assessment and words are spot-on, and it felt gratifying to see another marriage that is just like mine — with so much trust, steadiness, and easy happiness.
There is no specific formula for a successful military marriage; every marriage has different needs, different players, and different circumstances. For some, the high highs and low lows help the connection. Some may wonder about our steady marriage because the steadiness doesn’t sound very romantic or passionate. I think that we have highly romantic and passionate marriages … just in our own way.
Enjoy this post – I think that it’s perfectly written, like many of her other posts 🙂
“Unless it is mad, passionate, extraordinary love, it’s a waste of time. There are too many mediocre things in life. Love should not be one of them.”
I saw this quote the other day, and it stuck with me because I’m not sure that I agree with it.
One thing that I love the most about my relationship with Jeremy is that it is easy. Our love is not one of highs and lows. It’s a steady and consistent love.
Perhaps that makes it mediocre?
I would never describe my love for my husband as mad or passionate. I would use words like: steady, reliable, comfortable, unwavering.
Maybe for some people that would translate to boring.
But for me, it’s everything I’ve ever wanted. I want a love that will last a lifetime. I want a companion to spend my life with. I want someone who I know will…
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