Fly Navy Information

After a long hiatus, my husband and I decided to re-open my blog with a new purpose.  Previously, I primarily used this blog as a personal diary with a secondary purpose of conveying information about the #FlyNavy community. After meeting women in the past few months who recognized me from my blog and told me how immensely helpful my blog was to them as their then-boyfriends/now-husbands journeyed through Navy flight school, I started wondering if I should put my blog back online with the sole purpose of conveying information.

I’ve now scrubbed this blog of almost all of my previous personal posts. My plan is to continue providing an informational outlet about Fly Navy stuff – all the stuff nobody tells families and significant others, yet we are somehow magically expected to know: what to wear to certain kinds of events, gift ideas for folks in the Fly Navy community, deployment-related topics, flight school-related topics, the career path of flight crew, the career path of non-flight crew squadron officers, attending Tailhook as a spouse/significant other, last flights with the squadron, informational topics about flying a jet, and anything else I think of or someone suggests. I’ve already talked with a few potential guest-writers, including female flight crew (woohoo!).  I’d love to talk a lot more about the great relationships that can be formed between female spouses/significant others and females in the squadron. Historically there has been a huge divide between the female officers and female significant others, and it’s time for that to end.

My comments are always open and I’m very receptive to post ideas. Also please note that the site address is now thenavylifeofapilotswife.com vs the previous navylifeofapilotswife. I created an Instagram account for this blog (@navylifeofapilotswife), though I’ve yet to update it with anything. Maybe today is the day!

A brief personal update: my husband just finished his department head tour, and we are about to move on to the next stop in his career (we are leaving in 5 days, as a matter of fact!). The below photo was taken a few days ago at his “last flight” with the squadron. I am now a NURSE! I finished nursing school during Michael’s last deployment and I am so proud of myself for seeing it through. I’ve been working as a nurse locally for the last 7 months, and I’m excited to see what I can find near our next base. I don’t have a specialty yet; I was working in adult med-surg nursing (like general hospital nursing), and I’m thinking about trying for pediatric next – maybe pediatric oncology. I did a few weeks in a peds oncology unit during nursing school clinicals, and I loved it. We now have two corgis, and we are excited to stop at a National Park with them next week during our cross country driving adventure.

Cheers – and as always, thank you for reading ❤

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Aircraft carrier life for the sci fi nerds among us (me).

My husband and I have been watching Battlestar Galactica for the past two weeks. It sounds super nerdy (it is), but it’s also a great representation of what life on an aircraft carrier is like. The “battlestar” is a futuristic space aircraft carrier, complete with a CAG, CIC, flight ops, squadrons, and all kinds of Naval aviation stuff. My husband appreciates that it’s mostly accurate, to a point where it’s humerous. For example, catapults are used to launch the space-jets into space from the battlestar. Catapults would be extreme overkill in space, but it’s accurate for the current, sea-based Navy! Also, some of the inner components of the space-jets are identical to the inside of a F-18. It’s a lot of fun watching the show with him because I’m learning about what he does for all those months he’s deployed … which is coming right up … again … 😦 

FYI – it’s not available on Netflix. We found a (legal) website that has all the seasons. I’ll post the site later because I can’t think of the name right now. 

You are more than your husband’s wife.

It’s now nearing the end of our THIRD month in the USA (w00t w00t). Everything is falling into place for us, especially me. In all the fun of building a life for myself, I’ve rediscovered something really, really important:

I am more than just my husband’s wife.

Ladies and gents, spouses of our service members, you are more than the spouse of a military member. You are a whole person, belonging to yourself and of yourself, and you have a right to possess a life for yourself that has nothing to do with your spouse’s job description. You are more than a tool in your spouse’s arsenal of ways to get in good with the boss. You are more than a worker bee for your spouse’s command. You are more than a pretty thing to hang on their arm at formal events.

You are more than married to the military.

Now that I’m working part time at a residential care center, working my butt off with my lifting coach, and coaching rowing again, I’ve remembered that I am very much my own person, with my own dreams, desires, and aspirations. Sure, I had those feelings while living in the fish bowl of an overseas military base, but those feelings are flourishing now, and I’m finding my own voice again. My husband does his work, comes home, and we talk about topics beyond just what he did at work that day; now, we also discuss what I did at work that day. We discuss my latest gains in the gym. We discuss my coaching plan for my rower (I’m doing private coaching work). We talk about our weekend plans, which have nothing to do with the Navy.

It’s beautiful.

Don’t allow petty, small voices to make you feel like you’re a bad spouse if you’re not involved in your spouse’s work life 24/7. Don’t allow anyone to tell you that there is only one way to be a “good” military spouse. Don’t let yourself get boxed in.

Be involved as much as you and your spouse want you to be involved. Go to spouse club meetings, if that’s your thing. Help decorate the command table for the ball, take part in homecoming festivities, make friends with the other spouses in the command, but, above all else, do it because it makes YOU happy and fulfilled, not because you feel like you have to fit into a pretty, little military spouse box. Take part because it’s fun and adds value to your life. If it doesn’t add value, don’t do it.

Be yourself. Do you. Remember that your personal life and hopes and dreams and aspirations are important, too. 

You are MORE than a military spouse. So much more.

The movers are here. 

We leave base tomorrow. We’ll be back in the USA 36hrs later. This is really happening, folks. 

   
 

He’s home!

  

Some pictures of the move.

End result: our bedroom. Loaner furniture isn't so bad!

End result: our bedroom. Loaner furniture isn’t so bad!

End result: our living room. I even hooked-up the XBox-TV-Cable all by myself! I'm loving out minimalist apartment.

End result: our living room. I even hooked-up the XBox-TV-Cable all by myself! I’m loving our minimalist apartment.

Our movers hard at work ...

Our movers hard at work …

All packed-up

All packed-up

"Home is wherever I am with you". So true and poignant on moving day!

“Home is wherever I am with you”. So true and poignant on moving day!

How I separated the "keep" from the "go". It's not stupid if it works, right?! I stayed in a hotel during the move, so I DID shower, just not at home ...

How I separated the “keep” from the “go”. It’s not stupid if it works, right?! I stayed in a hotel during the move, so I DID shower, just not at home …

A Japanese moving truck. Why don't American moving trucks open like this?!

A Japanese moving truck. Why don’t American moving trucks open like this?!

Visiting Fushimi Inari-Taisha Shrine. 

My mom and I recently visited the Fushimi Inari-Taisha Shrine in Kyoto. It was the very top item in my Japan bucket list and I am thrilled to have made it there!

The Shinto shrine features thousands and thousands of gorgeous red-orange torii gates. The book (and movie) Memoires of a Geisha made the torii gates famous to the wider world.

Here are some photos we took: